In Defense of Attraction

One criticism that I get all the time,
especially from my "more conservative readers"
from other cultures, is that it is "wrong"
to treat attraction seriously because it creates
social problems. According to these guys...


1) Divorce rate is higher in Western countries
because people are allowed to pick the partners
they like.


2) Women and men often cheat in Western cultures.


3) Women are more materialistic in Western cultures


4) Pre-arranged marriages have worked for thousands
of years, and the concept of "dating" is still
relatively new, so it may not be "right".


5) If everyone just listened to their hearts, people
would be no better than animals.


6) Flirting sucks because it creates uncertainty. It
is not logical.


7) Allowing women to dress up in sexy clothes create
many problems.




Here is my response to this bullsh**:


1) The divorce rate has actually been dropping in
Western countries in recent years. But that is
besides the point, as even a higher divorce rate
does not necessarily mean "dating" and "attraction"
are bad. Why? Because up to a hundred years ago,
divorces were not even available to the general
public. Kings and rich men could divorce (and
take on new wives), but not the average guy. Ask
your grandparents if it would have been appropriate
for their own grandparents to get a divorce!

Just because there were less divorces back then
doesn't mean people were any happier.


2) Cheating has existed in every culture since
the dawn of time. Plus, it's funny how the
guys who complain to me about their wives looking
at other guys are often the same guys who cheat
on their wives...

Hypocrites!

Instead of worrying about women cheating on you
because they have the freedom to, worry about
how to keeping your relationship healthy so
that they won't WANT to.

Hint: Check out: http://www.smartrelationshipscourse.com


3) As I have stated before, most people are
at least a tiny bit materialistic. Women in
western societies may consume more because
they have more money. But it's no different than
the parents of a woman from a more traditional
culture wanting to force their daughter into
marriage the rich local landlord. (Explain THAT!)


4) I really think guys who whine about attraction
do so out of fear. They feel like they are
losing power. Instead of adapting to an
important trend, they just get angry and upset.

Here is my advice if you belong to
this group of men:


Subject yourself to change!


You gotta subject yourself to change
before it subjugates YOU. This is an eternal
law that applies to the rise and fall of
people, companies, and nations. If you don't
change in changing times, you're going to
fall.

Family, national, and religious values
will continue to have less and less power over
relationships and love. Don't fight it. Learn
how to use it to your advantage!