should you mix approaching with flirting?

A "noob" mistake that I see some of my readers
do all the time is that they try to combine approaching
women with flirting and teasing before they are ready
to do so.

When you're playing basketball, you learn to
dribble and you learn to shoot. Both are important
skills to have and do work together eventually, but
at the beginning, they need to be practiced separately
until you are ready to do them simultaneously.

Dating is no different. If you worry about
approaching women when you should be practicing
your flirting, it's going to kill your success. And
if you worry about how you should be flirting with
a woman before you approach her, it's going to lower
your confidence and make yourself stumble.

That's why you should practice approaching
women and flirting with them separately until they
both become second nature to you.

Start by flirt with every woman you come
across casually. Just let go of your expectations
and be playful. Forget about the results and just
do it. Flirt with all the females within your social
circle. (If you don't have one, it's time to get
one!)

Once you can do that, then start approaching
strangers (not just women, but men as well) and
small-talk them. Focus on meeting people and
developing your natural curiosity towards things and
people in general.

Finally, combine the two together and flirt
with the women you approach. Use some of the more
advanced flirting routines I've taught you such
as the "Name Tease Flirting Routine" I sent you
the other day.

I promise you'll have more success if you
break things down and practice before putting everything
back together again!

Top 10: Great Date Conversation Tips

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Number 10

Avoid the “interview”
Most guys treat a first date like a job interview, asking the same old boring questions that a woman is sure to have heard 100 times. Avoid asking questions like: “How old are you?”; “What do you do?”; and “How many brothers and sisters do you have?” and you’ll separate yourself from every other guy she has met. Following this great date conversation tip surely will lead to more interesting topics.

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Number 9

Lead the conversation
If you sense that the conversation is going too far into the “boring zone” (you’re talking about work), don’t be afraid to take charge. Simply say, “Enough about that; let’s talk about something more interesting,” and you’ll be sure to instantly change a boring conversation -- and a boring date -- into an exciting time.

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Number 8

Make eye contact
Not all of our great date conversation tips have to do with speaking or listening, as the intangibles of conversation are equally important. So, be sure to look into her sexy eyes when you talk to her. You should also hold eye contact just a little too long, as this will show her that you are a confident man who knows what he wants.

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Number 7

Bring up current gossip
There’s a reason why every woman you know reads celebrity gossip magazines -- they just can’t get enough of the stuff! Don’t be afraid to ask her what she thinks about the latest fashion faux pas at the most recent awards show or what she thinks of the current celebrity-in-rehab news. When you discuss topics that are fun and interesting to her, she’ll automatically see you as fun and interesting.

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Number 6

She’s watching you
Guess what, guys; when you’re talking to your waiter, the cab driver or the bartender, your date is listening to and judging you. Treat everyone you talk to with kindness and respect. She will notice, and that’s why it’s on our list of great date conversation tips.

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Number 5

Be playful
Women love guys with whom they can have a good time, and a great way to spark some fun conversation is to ask left-field and playful questions that people don’t usually ask. So, next time you’re on a date, don’t be afraid to ask her what her favorite color is, what kind of ice cream she likes and how many stuffed animals she has. If you rate her answers, you’ll turn this strategy into a fun game: Cookie dough? Yeah, I don’t think this is gonna work out.

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Number 4

Avoid the “tough topics”
Yes, I’m talking about politics and religion. You’re asking for trouble if you bring up either one of these. Save it!

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Number 3

Don’t worry about uncomfortable silences
A sign that you are comfortable with someone is when you can enjoy a good silence with them and not feel that you have to talk the entire time. Next time one of your conversations comes to a lull, relax and let her be the one to spark it up again. It will show her that you’re comfortable with yourself, which will make her feel more comfortable with you.

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Number 2

Don’t try to impress
Women have seen enough to know that guys who try to impress them are just trying to make up for their own insecurities. In fact, women are so tired of this that they will actually “test” you to see if you are one of those guys right away. So, be humble. If there is something about you that she would find impressive (such as a car or a loft), make her dig to find out what it is or discover it naturally -- don’t just blurt it out. She’ll be more impressed by your modesty than anything else.

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Number 1

Avoid the dreaded “fatal questions”
Most guys don’t realize that asking a woman things like: “Am I your type?”; “How do you like me so far?”; and “Do you want to hang out again some time?” will instantly send her running for the hills. Why? Because it shows her that you aren’t the confident man that she wants. Remember that a confident guy knows it doesn’t matter if he’s her “type.” He also knows that she definitely “likes him” and would love to hang out again. Think about it.

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"Should You Get Your Ex Back?"

If you are thinking about getting your ex back,the first thing you should think about is why you guys broke up in the first place, as in if it was a characteror an attraction issue. If it's just an attraction orcommunication issue, then by all means try to raise the attraction and save your relationship.

But if you guys had broken up because of relationshipdrama, such as if you or your ex had too much emotionalbaggage to be involved with a romantic relationship, thenI'd recommend against getting back together. If it was you who had character problems, then fix yourself firstand then think about getting back together. If it was yourex who had character problems, then be glad that therelationship is over and don't even think about gettingback together.

This will require an objective review of yourex's and your own character. If you're still too emotional to have clear judgment, then here's a simple test: Thinkabout whether your close friends and family hate your ex do. If they do, chances are, there's something wrong withyour ex that you don't see.

You should also think about how compatible youactually are with your ex. If it's "just too hard" foryou guys to be together, maybe you both would be better offbeing with someone who'd create less drama.

A Simple Flirting Routine Based On Getting Caught

A while ago I told you in one of my articles that one of the way to flirt or to approach a woman is by letting her catch you checking her out. Today I will show you an example of how to do it:

1) Find a restaurant or retail store where the girls wear name tags.

2) Approach a woman.

3) Make eye contact and smile. When she smiles back, say "Hello..." and pause.

4) Break the eye contact and move your gaze down slowly...until you reach her chest...where her name tag is.

5) Make eye contact again and say her name...slowly.

6) Pause and then give her a compliment OR tease about her name.

Example: "That's a very interesting name. What's the story behind it?" (If it is an unique name.)

Example: "That sounds like something from the Transformers."

7) Wait for her reaction. And then start the small-talking and flirting.

If you perform this routine correctly, you're going to make her blush!