"How To Make More Friends And Become More Popular"

As I always say, the guys that are
best with women are often the guys that are
the most sociable. So here are twenty ways
to be more popular and make more friends.


1) Have a natural curiosity towards people.

2) Smile a lot and be friendly.

3) Talk about what other people want to hear about.

4) Be positive and give people encouragement.

5) Be a good listener.

6) Flatter people sincerely.

7) Have fun hobbies.

8) Volunteer

9) Mention people's names when you speak.

10) Make time to see people.

11) Remember birthdays.

12) Connect friends with other friends. This
way they will all remember you or mention you
when they see each other.

13) Act like a leader.

14) Raise your social proof.

15) Leave people better than you find them.

16) Don't be intimidating.

17) Ignore rejection. There are plenty of
other people who will want to be your friend.

18) Speak out and seek attention.

19) Join a co-op sports team.

20) Take hobby classes.

21) Organize study sessions if you are still
in school.

22) Join hobby clubs.

23) Be reliable and trustworthy.

24) Think about how you can help other people
with their goals.

25) Make small talk with everyone you meet,
period!

"How To Use Temptation To Get A Date"

Here is a little routine you can
use to get a date.

1) Think of event or place that is ultra
cool.

Examples:


- Upcoming party

- Upcoming concert

- Favorite "unknown" restaurant

- Some kind of an upcoming art event
or exhibition
(Especially if you are an expert on it)


The only rule is that Whatever you
pick should be quite unique and not something
"everybody" is talking about.


2) Casually mention it to the woman during
a conversation. Talk about how great it's going
to be, and then just switch to other topics.


3) Let her wonder why you are not inviting
her.


4) Use other techniques to continue building
rapport and displaying your great personality.


5) Just before you're about to leave, bring it up
again and invite her casually. Make it a "By
the way, you should come to..." kind of
thing.


If you do this routine properly, the
woman will be more likely to say "yes" to
a casual first date. After all, it is much
more interesting than checking out the best
Indian restaurant in town or going to the
see a cool band than to "get coffee" or
"get together for lunch"!

"How To Lift Yourself Out of Dating Blues"

One of the most common questions
I get is how a person can get out of their
"dating blues" when they are down. This
may include moving on after a bad breakup
or getting out of depression after being
rejected.


This is my honest answer:

Do something that will have long
term benefits.


From my experience, depressed people
need to feel alive. It is quite useless to
tell them to be happy or just to do things
they like. When you are depressed and drained
emotionally, it is hard to get pleasure out
of anything - even in activities you would
normally enjoy.


However, doing things that can
give you long term benefits will make you
feel like you are in control of yourself,
and it is a great feeling to feel like
you're taking responsibility for yourself!


Set objectives and goals that have
long-term benefits, be it working out,
taking a class, or simply cleaning. By
focusing on the future instead of immediate
gratification, not only will you feel more
in control and have more confidence, you
will also see that you have a future to
look forward to!

"What If Women Like To Spread Gossips About You"

Once in awhile, I'll get an email that
goes, "Johannsen. There's this woman who is
going around spreading rumors about me.
People are starting to believe her and it's
hurting my success. Girls don't like me anymore
because of her gossips. What should I do?"


Okay. I'm going to have to be a bit
blunt here. 9 out of 10 times, unless you've
done something drastically wrong, if people
are treating you badly because of gossips
from one person, you should really take
a good look at yourself and see why you are
so unpopular.


Let me give you two scenarios...

Scenario #1:

A woman who is quite popular spreads
some false rumors about a man who is not so
popular in a small community. Who will the
crowd side with?

Scenario #2:

A woman who is not popular at all
spreads false rumors about a guy everybody
loves. Who will the crowd sides with?


Here's the hard truth. If everybody
is joining in to ignore you or to humiliate
you, chances are, you weren't that popular to
begin with. If people liked you, they would
have defended you. Sounds harsh? It's
reality.

So the first step to stopping and
preventing false rumors is to be more
likable.

Think about why people dislike
you, and think about how to make more friends.


Once you have the "majority support",
then you can become to isolate the gossip
spreader as a loser who can't be trusted.


By then, you can also confront the
gossip spreader directly. Go up to the
person and say something like. "Hey.
I just thought I should tell you that
there's a gossip spreading around you
in the office. But don't worry, I won't
pass it in."


Then when she asks you what it is,
say, "Oh. I overheard it from someone -
I can't tell you who - that everybody
thinks you are the biggest gossiper in
the office and can't be trusted."


Bulls eye!

"How To Change A Woman (Or Man)"

As I always say, you can't really
change a person unless they WANT to change.
In many cases, the character of the person
will remain the same. But if you're talking
about small changes, then there's a chance
that you can help promote change with the
following technique.

The key is to separate the behavior
from the identity of the person. This way,
the person will feel that it's not really
their fault.


Here's how to do it:

1) Start by complimenting the person. Tell
them what they want to hear.

Example:

"Jennifer, you are a wonderful,
wonderful woman and I like you a lot. You're
kind, generous, and adventurous. It's very
fun to be around you."


2) Bridge it to the behavior you want to
stop, but do it in such a way that you're
suggesting their real identity is opposite
of the behavior you are trying to stop.

Example:


"I can also tell that you're a very
loyal person by the way you treat me, your
friends and family."


3) Then separate the behavior from the identity.

Example:

"But sometimes when I see you talk
to other guys, I get uncomfortable. I know
you're not trying to flirt with them because
that's not the kind of girl you are. You're
not like other girls and that's why I fell
for you."


Here's the bottom line. If you tell
someone they are horrible because they did
something stupid, then you're attacking their
core identity and forcing them to act defensive.
But if you tell them you think they are too smart
to do something stupid, then they probably
won't do it just so they can keep the good image!