tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11355242658015002512023-06-20T21:27:07.956-07:00Anti Torpe Society.comhow to become an alhpa male!Johannsenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18096626876486138671noreply@blogger.comBlogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135524265801500251.post-53584370766572433122009-04-25T22:44:00.001-07:002009-04-25T22:44:47.263-07:00How to get a hottie!I've dated some VERY beautiful women in my<br />life...real 10's! And if you want to do the same,<br />I can teach you pretty much everything there is to<br />know to attract and date a model, a stripper or<br />a hottie.<br /><br /> Allright...<br /><br /> What do Models, Hotties and Strippers have<br />in common? They all have men drooling all over<br />them wherever they go. These women are real 10s<br />and they know it.<br /><br /> Now you have to look at it this way: they get<br />asked out like 37 times each day (seriously!) by<br />all sorts of guys. Some are a complete joke who<br />want to take them out for dinner in McDonalds<br />(yes, I've heard some stories) while other drive<br />a Mercedes and own a yacht.<br /><br /> But they all fail because are COURTING these<br />women. This has to be the most common mistake<br />guys make when it comes to women and dating.<br />Please don't ever TRY to make a woman like you.<br /><br /> It doesn't work.<br /><br /> Women can't choose when they feel sexual<br />attraction for men like "Okay, I think he is<br />cute, funny and has an interesting personality,<br />I think it's time to become attracted to him."<br /><br /> It happens INSTANTLY!<br /><br /> But when you have all these guys trying to<br />BUY their affection by spending loads of money<br />and acting like nice gentlemen...then all their<br />efforts are for the gutter, really.<br /><br /> Read my lips here: This is NOT how you make<br />beautiful women have feelings for you. They will<br />not see you as that sexy man that they want to<br />kiss and get physical with.<br /><br /> Here's what I'm saying:<br /><br /> Why do you think that some of the most<br />beautiful women who can obviously CHOOSE anybody<br />they want...end up with dirty, sleazy, drunk<br />badboys who have tattoos all over their bodies<br />and treat them like crap?<br /><br /> Isn't that weird?<br /><br /> Very attractive women can get ANYBODY they<br />want, and they know it. So who do they go for?<br />Certainly not for those kind of guys that<br />approach and ask them out every day.<br /><br /> They need a challenge. They want somebody<br />that is in their league, somebody that is wild<br />so they can tame them. Somebody different that<br />doesn't go with the flow and does what everyone<br />else does.<br /><br /> So what chances have you got with a real 10?<br /><br /> Plenty, if you know what these women are<br />looking for. Go have a look at Dennis Rodman,<br />Kid Rock, Tommy Lee or Vince Neil. Those are<br />the role models you need to have a look at ...<br />not at those cute men you see in the movies who<br />rescue the princess.<br /><br /> If you want to become successful with models<br />or hotties you got to make sure you have a badboy<br />personality trait. Be wild, brake some rules and<br />be aggressive. If a woman acts like a brat, call<br />her on it. If you want something, then don't ask<br />for it...just take it!<br /><br /> It will take some time to get that trait<br />internalized because you have to study some<br />of the original badboy behavior like dominance,<br />aggressiveness and yes even slight arrogance...<br />but it works when it comes to women and dating.<br /><br /> Instead of saying "Hello, you are really<br />beautiful and I would like to take you out<br />for dinner sometimes" say something that only<br />somebody would say who KNOWS he can get<br />anybody he wants as well.<br /><br /> "HEY! You look cute...but I'm curious.<br />What else you got going for yourself but a<br />pretty lil' face. Tell me? Who knows, maybe<br />we get along" *evil grin*<br /><br /> Why do you think I get so many attractive<br />women? Because I have done my homework!<br /><br /> Now go do yours!Johannsenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18096626876486138671noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135524265801500251.post-86654775499505982032009-03-08T21:06:00.000-07:002009-03-08T21:10:23.081-07:00Pick-up Specialist: Chitchat To AvoidPreviously, I’ve covered the chitchat you should avoid with women when you’re making a pickup or trying to get a phone number. However, after watching a few of my comrades try and come up with witty material for the ladies, sometimes they still try out those boneheaded topics of conversation that nullify their hopes and dash their best chances. Here are a few more conversation topics to avoid when you’re making chitchat and leaving behind that important first impression.<br /><span style="font-weight:bold;"><br />Describing yourself (or your own character traits)</span><br /><br />As confounding as it may seem, there are still those rookie Players who feel the need to explain their personality traits to a woman rather than have her figure them out for herself. Perhaps it’s done as a form of self-validation or an honest attempt at being, well, honest, but it does nothing to promote your cause. When you describe yourself, you are throwing away any mystery about your character. It’s one thing to describe your job or your hobbies, but personality traits? It’s a buzz-kill, and it's a perfect example of the chitchat that players should avoid. Your character is meant to be discovered naturally; she’s smart enough to figure out if you’re nice, shy or brave, and it’s up to her to come to those conclusions. Romantic pursuits require subtlety and a casual approach that doesn’t need a fact sheet of qualifiers to check off as you go along.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Putting down other guys</span><br /><br />It’s a natural, instinctive reaction for a male of any species to be suspect of another guy snooping around his business, let alone the object of your affection. We’ve all done it: gotten jealous of a guy who might seem stronger or faster, or even just ripped on another guy to show that you’re the better man. As far as women are concerned, this is more of an internal conflict that you need to keep to yourself. Women are not impressed by you blatantly positioning yourself as the alpha male.<br /><br />So how does a Player go about it? For starters, don’t feel the need to put down other guys. It’s insulting, aggressive and makes you look like a self-absorbed douche. Again, it comes back to the idea of subtlety -- if there’s another guy who irks you, just smile and nod. An attractive man is defined more by his patience and tolerance than by his foul mouth, and women know it -- so should a Player.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Your own idiosyncrasies</span><br /><br />The only thing worse than displaying your bad habits or idiosyncrasies is bringing them up with women. Your peculiarities are not what she’s interested in, and she doesn’t need you to explain any of your “endearing” quirks. Much to the chagrin of today’s geek-inclined men, pursuing women, especially very desirable women, still doesn’t involve talking about your collection of miniature spoons. Never has, never will.<br /><br />Of course, what you may consider a normal idiosyncrasy might not be so normal to anyone else. If one of your idiosyncratic behaviors is being extremely superstitious, change the subject to a higher-level discussion about fate or luck. Always keep an ear open to what you’re saying and how she may hear it. An easy way to identify chitchat to avoid are things that have the potential to get lost in translation, and idiosyncrasies usually can.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Past conquests</span><br /><br />It’s the bane of a woman’s existence: a guy who goes into a lengthy, unnecessary harangue about the number of ticks on his bedpost, or the number of women he’s been with. Past conquests are a fragile topic of chitchat to venture into, especially with someone you’re trying to win over. It’s not that your target doesn’t want to know about your history with women, it’s just that some details (most details, actually) don’t need to be expressed.<br /><br />Keep that aura of mystery and confidence, at least initially. Spilling the beans shows signs of desperation and a willingness to change just for her, which could turn her off. As she becomes more interested in you, release a few tidbits at a time, but never expose too much. Talking about conquests or relationships shows a degree of insecurity that will tarnish your image.Johannsenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18096626876486138671noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135524265801500251.post-34726941423766286382008-11-30T04:14:00.000-08:002008-11-30T04:17:00.139-08:00So here are 9 ways to push yourself in datingIf you have been reading my dating tips <br />for a long time, you should know that one of my <br />core philosophies is to constantly push one's <br />self-imposed limitations and go further than <br />other guys are willing to go. After all, most <br />people are lazy and if you are willing to go <br />further than them, then naturally you are going <br />to have more success in the world.<br /><br /><br /> So here are 10 ways to push yourself in <br />dating:<br /><br /><br />1) Push yourself to make more friends: As I<br />always say, having a wild circle of friends or<br />an active social life is a must if you would<br />like to meet tons of women. The most popular<br />men and women are usually the ones that are<br />the most sociable.<br /><br /><br />2) Push yourself to flirt more: If you <br />flirt more than the average guy, you WILL <br />have more success in dating than the average<br />guy.<br /><br /><br />3) Push yourself to be more of a leader: The<br />alpha male always get more women than the average<br />Joe, and because most people would rather be<br />followers than leaders, often times you can<br />become alpha just be stepping up to the <br />plate and taking care of other people.<br /><br /><br />4) Push yourself in the gym: Muscles alone won't<br />help you in dating, but it definitely won't<br />hurt your success rate to look better.<br /><br /><br />5) Push yourself to advance with women: Be it<br />getting her number, holding her hand, or cuddling<br />with her, you should always be pushing ahead.<br /><br /><br />6) Push yourself to raise the bar: Improve the<br />quality of women you date over time, both in<br />terms of looks AND personality/character!<br /><br /><br />7) Push yourself in your education, business,<br />or career. Although I do not believe using money<br />to chase women, I totally believe that building<br />one's social status through wealth and education<br />can improve success in dating.<br /><br /><br />8) Push yourself to try new things: Cool people<br />have adventurous lives. Get yourself out there!<br /><br /><br />9) Push yourself to rest hard: If you do all<br />of the above without resting, you're going to<br />be burned out in no time. So cut down on "useless"<br />activities such as playing video games.Johannsenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18096626876486138671noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135524265801500251.post-31942171920850944252008-11-16T21:47:00.000-08:002008-11-16T21:49:34.064-08:0025 Signs A Woman Is Interested In YouHere are 25 signs a woman is interested in you.<br /><br /><br />1) She flirts with you, but not with other guys.<br /><br />2) She talks to you a lot, but not to other guys.<br /><br />3) You catch her checking you out.<br /><br />4) She lets a strap fall off a shoulder but does not fix it.<br /><br />5) She's extremely excited and touchy when she is around you.<br /><br />6) She flips her hair at you.<br /><br />7) She flashes her wrists at you.<br /><br />8) She licks her lips when she talks to you.<br /><br />9) She leans over and whispers to you.<br /><br />10) She mingle her stuff with yours.<br /><br />11) She smiles genuinely when she's around you.<br /><br />12) She fidgets with her clothes around you.<br /><br />13) She laughs at your dumbest jokes.<br /><br />14) She mirrors your body position.<br /><br />15) She calls you for random reasons.<br /><br />16) She blushes when she looks at you.<br /><br />17) She tries to "domesticate" you or to cook for you.<br /><br />18) She gives you "the vibe".<br /><br />19) She dresses up when she knows she will see you.<br /><br />20) She's available when you ask her out.<br /><br />21) She preens when she is around you.<br /><br />22) She does not talk about her boyfriend...ever...even when she has one.<br /><br />23) She keeps her eyes locked on you while she talks or drinks.<br /><br />24) She smiles or blushes when she catches you checking her out.<br /><br />25) She tries to probe information about you.Johannsenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18096626876486138671noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135524265801500251.post-86739102450795160182008-09-22T20:15:00.000-07:002008-09-22T20:16:22.446-07:00Where to Take Women on DatesHere are a few good ideas for a first<br />date.<br /><br /><br />1) Bowling<br /><br /> Bowling is a good example of a "fun"<br />date. You will get to interact with her, and<br />if you are good at bowling, you can even teach<br />her a trick or too.<br /><br /><br />2) Dessert<br /><br /> Women can rarely turn down a good dessert.<br />Look for a good dessert place in your town and<br />take women there for a date. They'll love it!<br /><br /><br />3) Ice Skating<br /><br /> Ice-skating isn't just a cheesy date<br />idea from movies. It actually works. Hold her<br />hand and teach her how to skate if she doesn't<br />know how.<br /><br /><br />4) Mini Golf<br /><br /> Just like ice-skating and bowling,<br />mini golf is a fun date that will allow you<br />to interact with her.<br /><br /><br />5) Dinner At Home<br /><br /> Offer to cook her dinner or to let her<br />cook YOU dinner at your house. It's nice, casual<br />AND romantic!<br /><br /><br />6) Dinner Theatre<br /><br /> Instead of just going out for food, look<br />for a dinner theatre for a fun evening of <br />entertainment. <br /><br /><br />7) Picnic<br /><br /> Picnics are fun. Be classy and get some<br />nice cheese from your local specialty<br />cheese shop!<br /><br /><br /><br />8) Art Museum<br /><br /> If the woman is the artsy type, take her<br />to an art gallery or museum. To avoid looking like<br />an idiot, make sure you know at least a little bit<br />about art yourself...Johannsenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18096626876486138671noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135524265801500251.post-86990210270108662132008-09-21T22:04:00.000-07:002008-09-21T22:06:03.006-07:00What players have that you dont have?Last time I talked about how there<br />are many men out there who resist the theory<br />of attraction. Today I am going to confront<br />another group of men - guys who think it is <br />hard for them to get a girlfriend because<br />they are not players.<br /><br /> Here is what I think: Instead of<br />of envying players because they get more<br />women than you do, think about how you can <br />learn from them and borrow some of their good <br />qualities that you lack...<br /><br /><br /> For example...<br /><br /><br />1) Do they flirt more than you? (Flirting<br />and being playful are extremely important<br />when it comes to building attraction.)<br /><br />2) Do they have more experience than you?<br />(As my romantic intelligence theory goes,<br />a lot of players are good with women<br />simply because they started out at a younger<br />age.)<br /><br />3) Do they act like more of a challenge than you?<br />(This ties in with experience. A man with<br />more experience and lots of options can <br />AFFORD being a challenge.)<br /><br />4) Are they more sociable than you?<br />(As I have stated in the past, I have yet<br />to meet a player who isn't sociable.)<br /><br /><br />5) Do they have a better external image than you?<br />(It is not who you are inside, but what<br />kind of IMAGE you give image, that matters.)<br /><br /><br />6) Are they more comfortable with their<br />own body than you are?<br />(How can you close if you aren't even <br />feel comfortable cuddling with a woman?)<br /><br /><br /><br /> Once you have identified the<br />things that you lack, then the next step<br />is to work on getting the same things. Work<br />on one thing at a time, and eventually <br />you will have the same success.<br /><br /> By the way, you can use the same <br />technique to model yourself after successful<br />people in various fields including business<br />and school!Johannsenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18096626876486138671noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135524265801500251.post-29199315994049169012008-09-20T22:41:00.000-07:002008-09-20T22:42:29.504-07:00In Defense of AttractionOne criticism that I get all the time,<br />especially from my "more conservative readers"<br />from other cultures, is that it is "wrong"<br />to treat attraction seriously because it creates<br />social problems. According to these guys...<br /><br /><br />1) Divorce rate is higher in Western countries<br />because people are allowed to pick the partners<br />they like.<br /><br /><br />2) Women and men often cheat in Western cultures.<br /><br /><br />3) Women are more materialistic in Western cultures<br /><br /><br />4) Pre-arranged marriages have worked for thousands<br />of years, and the concept of "dating" is still <br />relatively new, so it may not be "right".<br /><br /><br />5) If everyone just listened to their hearts, people<br />would be no better than animals.<br /><br /><br />6) Flirting sucks because it creates uncertainty. It<br />is not logical.<br /><br /><br />7) Allowing women to dress up in sexy clothes create<br />many problems.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /> Here is my response to this bullsh**:<br /><br /><br />1) The divorce rate has actually been dropping in <br />Western countries in recent years. But that is <br />besides the point, as even a higher divorce rate<br />does not necessarily mean "dating" and "attraction"<br />are bad. Why? Because up to a hundred years ago,<br />divorces were not even available to the general<br />public. Kings and rich men could divorce (and<br />take on new wives), but not the average guy. Ask<br />your grandparents if it would have been appropriate <br />for their own grandparents to get a divorce!<br /><br />Just because there were less divorces back then<br />doesn't mean people were any happier. <br /><br /><br />2) Cheating has existed in every culture since<br />the dawn of time. Plus, it's funny how the<br />guys who complain to me about their wives looking<br />at other guys are often the same guys who cheat<br />on their wives...<br /><br />Hypocrites!<br /><br />Instead of worrying about women cheating on you<br />because they have the freedom to, worry about<br />how to keeping your relationship healthy so <br />that they won't WANT to.<br /><br />Hint: Check out: http://www.smartrelationshipscourse.com <br /><br /><br />3) As I have stated before, most people are<br />at least a tiny bit materialistic. Women in<br />western societies may consume more because <br />they have more money. But it's no different than<br />the parents of a woman from a more traditional<br />culture wanting to force their daughter into <br />marriage the rich local landlord. (Explain THAT!)<br /><br /><br />4) I really think guys who whine about attraction<br />do so out of fear. They feel like they are <br />losing power. Instead of adapting to an <br />important trend, they just get angry and upset.<br /><br /> Here is my advice if you belong to <br />this group of men:<br /><br /><br /> Subject yourself to change!<br /><br /><br /> You gotta subject yourself to change<br />before it subjugates YOU. This is an eternal<br />law that applies to the rise and fall of<br />people, companies, and nations. If you don't<br />change in changing times, you're going to <br />fall.<br /><br /> Family, national, and religious values<br />will continue to have less and less power over <br />relationships and love. Don't fight it. Learn <br />how to use it to your advantage!Johannsenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18096626876486138671noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135524265801500251.post-5352542884117559342008-08-25T22:43:00.000-07:002008-08-25T22:45:03.436-07:00"How To Encourage A Girl To Be Naughtier"Many guys would love to a girlfriend<br />who is a princess in public but a bit naughty<br />in the bedroom. Unfortunately, the two doesn't<br />always mix. So here are a few ways to help<br />you bring out your girlfriend's naughty side<br />in the bedroom.<br /><br /><br />1) It starts with your beliefs.<br /><br /> It all starts with your beliefs. You have<br />to be comfortable with being naughty (without<br />any guilt) before you can bring out the naughtiness<br />in a woman. You have to have a "matter of fact"<br />attitude when you talk about your fantasies. If you <br />are a bit embarrassed about intimacy, it will show<br />through in your voice tone and facial expression,<br />and the anti-slut response in the woman will be<br />triggered. <br /><br /><br />2) Encourage her to open up about her fantasies.<br /><br /><br /> Once your stance on intimacy is clear,<br />encourage your girlfriend to be open about what<br />she likes in term of intimate contact. Start<br />small and take little steps. She will warm up<br />over time.<br /><br /><br />3) Never judge any of her fantasies negatively.<br /><br /> Remember to never judge anything she <br />likes. Don't ever criticize anything she has<br />done in the past. If you do, her anti-slut<br />defense will kick in!<br /><br /><br />4) Be playful and talk dirty<br /><br /><br /> Be playful, flirty, and try to talk<br />dirty when the energy is right. "I want to<br />tap that ass" may be derogatory if you say<br />it to a random woman. But if you say it<br />to your girlfriend with the right voice tone<br />at the right moment, she'll love it.<br /><br /><br />5) Be discreet<br /><br /> Don't ever, ever kiss and tell. <br />What happens between you two should STAY <br />between you too.<br /><br /><br />6) Create a safe environment<br /><br /> Speaking of being discreet, remember<br />to create a safe environment for her to be<br />naughty with you. If she is feeling uncomfortable,<br />you're not going to anywhere with her!Johannsenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18096626876486138671noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135524265801500251.post-54983181862827898472008-08-22T22:06:00.000-07:002008-08-22T22:07:10.653-07:00"How To Make A Woman Jealous"Due to popular demand, I am going<br />to show you a few ways to make a woman<br />jealous. <br /><br /> First, a word of warning though:<br />When used properly, the following tactics<br />can make you seem like more a prize. But<br />if is EXTREMELY easy to cross the line<br />and push the woman away. So make sure you<br />know what you're doing before you use<br />these techniques. They can SERIOUSLY back<br />fire on you. You have been warned.<br /><br /><br /><br />1) Change Your Priorities<br /><br /> The first technique is to pay <br />attention to things other than her. This<br />may include your friends, your hobbies,<br />and other things that don't include her.<br /><br /> If you're currently too needy,<br />doing this can actually help your<br />relationship. But of course, if you overdo<br />it and start neglecting your relationship,<br />it will backfire on you and ultimately <br />push your girlfriend away. <br /><br /><br /><br />2) Raise Your Social Proof<br /><br /> The second thing to do is to<br />raise your social proof by improving<br />yourself.<br /><br /> If you look around you, you <br />will see that once a woman gets into<br />a relationship with a man, she will often<br />"dorkify" him by getting him dorky clothes<br />and making him look uncool.<br /><br /> So if you start working out, getting<br />nice haircuts, or getting a nice wardrobe,<br />she may start fearing that other women may<br />find you attractive.<br /><br /> Just don't overdo it. If you bring<br />out an uncontrollable jealous streak in<br />her, it's going to kill your relationship.<br /><br /><br /><br />3) Befriend Girls<br /><br /> Lastly, if you have a few casual friends<br />that are female, it's going to drive your girlfriend<br />crazy. Just make sure you never cheat on her<br />and that you don't do it do a point that she leaves<br />you because she thinks you're a cheater.<br /><br /><br /> It's all about the balance!Johannsenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18096626876486138671noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135524265801500251.post-62343084242168477042008-07-27T20:55:00.000-07:002008-07-27T20:56:09.749-07:00"How To Make More Friends And Become More Popular"As I always say, the guys that are<br />best with women are often the guys that are<br />the most sociable. So here are twenty ways<br />to be more popular and make more friends.<br /><br /><br />1) Have a natural curiosity towards people.<br /><br />2) Smile a lot and be friendly.<br /><br />3) Talk about what other people want to hear about.<br /><br />4) Be positive and give people encouragement.<br /><br />5) Be a good listener.<br /><br />6) Flatter people sincerely.<br /><br />7) Have fun hobbies.<br /><br />8) Volunteer<br /><br />9) Mention people's names when you speak.<br /><br />10) Make time to see people.<br /><br />11) Remember birthdays.<br /><br />12) Connect friends with other friends. This<br />way they will all remember you or mention you<br />when they see each other.<br /><br />13) Act like a leader.<br /><br />14) Raise your social proof.<br /><br />15) Leave people better than you find them.<br /><br />16) Don't be intimidating.<br /><br />17) Ignore rejection. There are plenty of<br />other people who will want to be your friend.<br /><br />18) Speak out and seek attention.<br /><br />19) Join a co-op sports team.<br /><br />20) Take hobby classes.<br /><br />21) Organize study sessions if you are still<br />in school.<br /><br />22) Join hobby clubs.<br /><br />23) Be reliable and trustworthy.<br /><br />24) Think about how you can help other people<br />with their goals.<br /><br />25) Make small talk with everyone you meet,<br />period!Johannsenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18096626876486138671noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135524265801500251.post-32034293597958508292008-07-26T00:44:00.001-07:002008-07-26T00:44:32.410-07:00"How To Use Temptation To Get A Date"Here is a little routine you can<br />use to get a date.<br /><br />1) Think of event or place that is ultra<br />cool.<br /><br /> Examples:<br /><br /><br /> - Upcoming party<br /><br /> - Upcoming concert<br /><br /> - Favorite "unknown" restaurant <br /><br /> - Some kind of an upcoming art event <br /> or exhibition<br /> (Especially if you are an expert on it)<br /><br /><br /> The only rule is that Whatever you <br />pick should be quite unique and not something<br />"everybody" is talking about.<br /><br /><br />2) Casually mention it to the woman during<br />a conversation. Talk about how great it's going<br />to be, and then just switch to other topics.<br /><br /><br />3) Let her wonder why you are not inviting<br />her.<br /><br /><br />4) Use other techniques to continue building<br />rapport and displaying your great personality.<br /><br /><br />5) Just before you're about to leave, bring it up<br />again and invite her casually. Make it a "By<br />the way, you should come to..." kind of<br />thing.<br /><br /><br /> If you do this routine properly, the<br />woman will be more likely to say "yes" to <br />a casual first date. After all, it is much<br />more interesting than checking out the best<br />Indian restaurant in town or going to the<br />see a cool band than to "get coffee" or <br />"get together for lunch"!Johannsenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18096626876486138671noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135524265801500251.post-72027580858953202062008-07-22T02:19:00.000-07:002008-07-22T02:20:31.526-07:00"How To Lift Yourself Out of Dating Blues"One of the most common questions<br />I get is how a person can get out of their<br />"dating blues" when they are down. This<br />may include moving on after a bad breakup<br />or getting out of depression after being<br />rejected.<br /><br /><br /> This is my honest answer:<br /><br /> Do something that will have long<br />term benefits.<br /><br /><br /> From my experience, depressed people<br />need to feel alive. It is quite useless to<br />tell them to be happy or just to do things<br />they like. When you are depressed and drained<br />emotionally, it is hard to get pleasure out<br />of anything - even in activities you would<br />normally enjoy.<br /><br /><br /> However, doing things that can<br />give you long term benefits will make you<br />feel like you are in control of yourself,<br />and it is a great feeling to feel like<br />you're taking responsibility for yourself!<br /><br /><br /> Set objectives and goals that have<br />long-term benefits, be it working out,<br />taking a class, or simply cleaning. By<br />focusing on the future instead of immediate<br />gratification, not only will you feel more<br />in control and have more confidence, you<br />will also see that you have a future to<br />look forward to!Johannsenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18096626876486138671noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135524265801500251.post-82044589075898909752008-07-19T22:35:00.000-07:002008-07-19T22:47:39.676-07:00"What If Women Like To Spread Gossips About You"Once in awhile, I'll get an email that<br />goes, "Johannsen. There's this woman who is <br />going around spreading rumors about me. <br />People are starting to believe her and it's <br />hurting my success. Girls don't like me anymore <br />because of her gossips. What should I do?"<br /><br /><br /> Okay. I'm going to have to be a bit<br />blunt here. 9 out of 10 times, unless you've<br />done something drastically wrong, if people<br />are treating you badly because of gossips<br />from one person, you should really take <br />a good look at yourself and see why you are<br />so unpopular.<br /><br /><br /> Let me give you two scenarios...<br /><br />Scenario #1:<br /><br /> A woman who is quite popular spreads<br />some false rumors about a man who is not so <br />popular in a small community. Who will the <br />crowd side with?<br /><br />Scenario #2:<br /><br /> A woman who is not popular at all<br />spreads false rumors about a guy everybody <br />loves. Who will the crowd sides with?<br /><br /><br /> Here's the hard truth. If everybody<br />is joining in to ignore you or to humiliate<br />you, chances are, you weren't that popular to<br />begin with. If people liked you, they would<br />have defended you. Sounds harsh? It's<br />reality.<br /><br /> So the first step to stopping and<br />preventing false rumors is to be more<br />likable.<br /><br /> Think about why people dislike<br />you, and think about how to make more friends.<br /><br /><br /> Once you have the "majority support",<br />then you can become to isolate the gossip<br />spreader as a loser who can't be trusted.<br /><br /><br /> By then, you can also confront the <br />gossip spreader directly. Go up to the<br />person and say something like. "Hey.<br />I just thought I should tell you that<br />there's a gossip spreading around you<br />in the office. But don't worry, I won't<br />pass it in."<br /><br /><br /> Then when she asks you what it is,<br />say, "Oh. I overheard it from someone -<br />I can't tell you who - that everybody <br />thinks you are the biggest gossiper in<br />the office and can't be trusted."<br /><br /><br /> Bulls eye!Johannsenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18096626876486138671noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135524265801500251.post-37216909278412827732008-07-17T23:01:00.000-07:002008-07-17T23:02:33.880-07:00"How To Change A Woman (Or Man)"As I always say, you can't really<br />change a person unless they WANT to change.<br />In many cases, the character of the person<br />will remain the same. But if you're talking<br />about small changes, then there's a chance<br />that you can help promote change with the<br />following technique.<br /><br /> The key is to separate the behavior<br />from the identity of the person. This way,<br />the person will feel that it's not really<br />their fault.<br /><br /><br /> Here's how to do it:<br /><br />1) Start by complimenting the person. Tell<br />them what they want to hear.<br /><br /> Example: <br /><br /> "Jennifer, you are a wonderful,<br />wonderful woman and I like you a lot. You're<br />kind, generous, and adventurous. It's very<br />fun to be around you."<br /><br /><br />2) Bridge it to the behavior you want to<br />stop, but do it in such a way that you're<br />suggesting their real identity is opposite<br />of the behavior you are trying to stop.<br /><br /> Example:<br /><br /><br /> "I can also tell that you're a very<br />loyal person by the way you treat me, your <br />friends and family."<br /><br /><br />3) Then separate the behavior from the identity.<br /><br /> Example:<br /><br /> "But sometimes when I see you talk<br />to other guys, I get uncomfortable. I know<br />you're not trying to flirt with them because<br />that's not the kind of girl you are. You're<br />not like other girls and that's why I fell<br />for you."<br /><br /><br /> Here's the bottom line. If you tell<br />someone they are horrible because they did<br />something stupid, then you're attacking their<br />core identity and forcing them to act defensive.<br />But if you tell them you think they are too smart<br />to do something stupid, then they probably<br />won't do it just so they can keep the good image!Johannsenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18096626876486138671noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135524265801500251.post-66203707546007267632008-05-20T06:10:00.000-07:002008-05-20T06:12:53.307-07:00Go Out To Have Fun, Not To Pick Up ChicksHere is an important rule to remember when<br />you go out to pick up woman:<br /><br />Go out not because you want to get girls,<br />but because you want to have fun with your buddies.<br /><br />I'll give you an example:<br /><br />2 guys go to the beach. The first guy is<br />there to pick up chicks. He gawks at the girls<br />and approaches everyone. The second guy is there<br />with his buddies and they are just there to have <br />a great time. A few girls walk by as they are playing<br />volleyball and he makes a casual comment about a <br />hat one of the girls is wearing. He invites her<br />to serve for his team for good luck. A few minutes<br />later they start talking naturally.<br /><br />Which guy will look cool, and which<br />guy will look like a complete tool?<br /><br />Here's what it all boils down to:<br />If you look like you're there to have fun with<br />your friends, you will look less desperate and <br />your approaches will look more natural and <br />spontaneous. On top of that, you will also have <br />more social proof because chances are, the girls <br />will have seen you having fun with your buddies. <br />And when you look like you're having a great time, <br />then it will be natural for other people to want<br />to join in the fun and become part of it<br />as well.<br /><br />So what are you waiting for? Go hang<br />out with your friends!Johannsenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18096626876486138671noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135524265801500251.post-2122593552806205782008-05-02T21:47:00.000-07:002008-05-02T21:49:49.650-07:00"20 First Date Dating Tips"1) Flirt a lot. Be playful.<br /><br />2) Tease her a lot and act like a challenge.<br /><br />3) Stay in control and lead the date.<br /><br />3) Avoid talking about politics, religion, and controversial <br />topics.<br /><br />4) Give her your full attention. Don't check out other women.<br /><br />5) Make good eye contact.<br /><br />6) Have strong body language.<br /><br />7) Don't talk about your past relationships, and change topics <br />when she talks about her past relationships.<br /><br />8) Act positive and optimistic.<br /><br />9) Don't make offensive jokes.<br /><br />10) Don't act needy or kiss her ass.<br /><br />11) Compliment her a little, but not too much. Remain a <br />challenge.<br /><br />12) Be on time.<br /><br />13) Play it cool.<br /><br />14) Don't get drunk. Seriously.<br /><br />15) Dress well and groom yourself before you see her.<br /><br />16) Give her a big hug as soon as you meet her. Why? A little <br />physical touching right off the bat can be a good start!<br /><br />17) Keep advancing in a subtle manner. Holding her hand? See <br />if you can get a kiss next, and so on. <br /><br />18) Build rapport and have a stimulating conversation.<br /><br />19) Act like a gentelman. Open doors and pull out chairs naturally.<br /><br />20) Relax and have fun!Johannsenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18096626876486138671noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135524265801500251.post-32203569214884579442008-05-02T21:32:00.000-07:002008-05-02T21:37:56.166-07:00"How To Recover From A Breakup"<strong><em>Here are some tips on how to recover from a breakup.</em></strong><br /><br /><br /><strong>1) Cut All Contact</strong><br />No matter you're moving on or trying to get your ex back ( see <a href="http://www.reverseyourbreakup.com/" target="_blank">www.reverseyourbreakup.com</a> ), it is very important that you CUT ALL CONTACT with your ex. This will help rebuild your confidence so thatyou can move on.<br /><br /><strong>2) Workout</strong><br />Working out at the gym will help you get your ex off your mind. The endorphins released during your workouts will make you a happier person. The body you get from working out will also make you a more confident person.<br /><br /><strong>3) See Your Friends</strong><br />Remember all the friends that you've ditched just to hang out with your ex? Start hanging out with them again! Go hang out with them and let them lift you up!<br /><br /><strong>4) Meet New Friends</strong><br />You should also meet as many NEW friends as possible while you're single again. Being sociable is one of the best ways to meet members of the opposite sex. Even if you don't want to start dating againyet, meeting new people will help you get your mind offyour ex.<br /><br /><strong>5) Spend Time With Family</strong><br />Spending time with family is a good way to "recharge" your energy while you're single.<br /><br /><strong>6) Find New hobbies</strong><br />Spend some time on a new hobby or two while you're single. Besides taking your mind off your ex, developing your passion for different hobbies or subjects will definitely make you a more interesting and well-rounded person. Plus, chances are you will be able to meet men or women who enjoy the same hobbies as you do.<br /><br /><strong>7) Education and Self-Improvement</strong><br /> Take a few college classes and buy a few self-improvement programs. You can NEVER spend too much time or money on your self-education.<br /><br /><strong>8) Go After Your Dreams</strong><br />Ambition is the most powerful aphrodisiac. Setting a long term goal will definitely help lift you out of your blues.<br /><br /><strong>9) See Other People</strong><br />See other people casually. This will help you build up your confidence again. You don't have to get into another long-term relationship right away...but at least start seeing other people!<br /><br /><strong>10) Improve Your Dating Skills</strong><br />Lastly, you should improve your dating skills while you are single. You want to make sure you don't repeat whatever mistakes you made last time with your ex. Remember: If you keep on doing the same things, you're going to keep getting the same results. I have seen too many "stubborn" people bump into the SAME walls OVER AND OVER with every person they date.Johannsenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18096626876486138671noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135524265801500251.post-48114342241165347002008-04-26T23:07:00.000-07:002008-04-26T23:11:02.427-07:00"The Romantic Appreciation Exercise"Here's a little exercise you can play with yourpartner to raise the intimacy in your relationship.<br /><br />1) Have a nice, romantic evening together. (Have a nice dinner,go on a "date", break out of your routine and do something special, etc.)<br /><br />2) Flirt and cuddle with your partner.<br /><br />3) Tell your partner you want to play a game.<br /><br />4) The game is to say five things that you guys appreciateabout each other.<br /><br />5) Use the chance to give your partner some nice complimentsabout little things that the rest of the world would notnotice.<br /><br />6) See what your partner has to say about you.<br /><br />7) React positively and kiss your partner.<br /><br />8) Cuddle some more and get a bit more physical.<br /><br />9) Pull back and engage in a more serious conversation. Thenmake a joke using one of the things you have said abouteach other.<br /><br />10) Cuddle and get more physical again.Johannsenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18096626876486138671noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135524265801500251.post-34177816434141771432008-04-20T00:39:00.000-07:002008-04-20T01:22:04.346-07:00Things Women Love To Hear<strong>Give compliments</strong><br /><br />The comedian Chris Rock said that women need three things: food, water and compliments. So, it’s not a matter of women just wanting to hear compliments, they actually can’t live without them. If they don’t get them, they might even shrivel up and die. If you can periodically reel off a nice compliment and genuinely mean it, don’t hesitate to do so because the benefits will come back to you in spades. However, be careful not to flood the air with empty flattery, as even the most attention-starved girl will see through your seduction strategy and call you out<br /><br /><strong>Examples of things women love to hear:</strong><br /><ul><li>“You look incredible.” It’s simple and effective. Every girl wants to hear this, particularly when she has gone to some trouble to look nice. </li><li>Those jeans look great on you.” This is a polite (and obvious) way of telling her that she has a nice ass. </li></ul><p><strong>Show commitment</strong></p><p>When you include her in your future plans, you’re giving her a glimpse of the security -- whether she’s 19 or 36 -- that she probably craves. So, say something that indicates to her that you intend to be a part of her life for a long time. Invite her to a high school reunion that’s still six months away. It’s enough to let her know that you envisage a future together, but not so bold as to suggest marriage and the rest of it</p><p><strong>Examples of things women love to hear:</strong> </p><ul><li>“I’d love to take you to (enter place of choice) this summer.” </li><li>“I’m not interested in anyone else.” In any <a href="http://www.askmen.com/dating/curtsmith_150/187_dating_advice.html">relationship</a>, questions will inevitably arise about your commitment to her, so when she asks, say something like this to counter her doubts and reassure her that you’ve found all you ever needed. </li></ul><p><strong>Be Jealous</strong></p><p>Being creatures of the natural world, <a href="http://www.askmen.com/dating/heidi_200/202_dating_girl.html">women expect men</a> to be the protectors in a relationship. And when we don’t act like it, they get irritated and begin to look elsewhere. We have to show them how much we care, which means that we have to get territorial once in a while. We’re by no means suggesting violent outbursts and paranoid accusations, but rather, some gentle prodding that demonstrates that you don’t want to lose her to anyone. At the end of the day, if you don’t take an interest in your girl’s well-being, someone else will come along with an offer to do so.</p><p><strong>Examples of things women love to hear:</strong> </p><ul><li>“Where were you?” You don’t have to be suspicious, just inquire about her whereabouts from time to time. </li><li>“Who’s that guy?” Ask her this in a half-joke, half-serious tone and she will think it’s cute that you’re still evaluating the competition. </li></ul><p><strong>Ask questions</strong></p><p>You can <a href="http://www.askmen.com/dating/heidi_150/198_dating_girl.html">win major brownie points</a> just by demonstrating an interest in her day-to-day affairs. Of course, this means paying attention to previous conversations and remembering key details that you can impress her with later.</p><p><strong>Examples of things women love to hear:</strong></p><ul><li>“How was your day?” Asking her something as simple as this can be an effective and engaging start. Be careful, though: even this phrase has been known to spark hour-long conversations about things that may mean very little to you. </li><li>“How’s your brother doing? Better, I hope?” Show her your compassionate side and ask about her friends or family members whom she mentioned were ill or going through some problems. She will be impressed that you remembered and grateful for someone to speak to about it. </li></ul><p><strong>Work on your delivery:</strong></p><p>Just as important as what you say is how you say it. If you dish up these phrases and don’t actually mean them (which is often the case), you obviously have your work cut out for you if you want her to actually believe you. Work on your style and delivery, and don’t bandy these phrases about without some serious recognition of the power they hold. </p>Johannsenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18096626876486138671noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135524265801500251.post-26964419590943016922008-04-12T00:57:00.000-07:002008-04-12T01:03:28.237-07:00What If A Woman Calls You A Player?A few days ago, a reader sent me the following<br />scenario: "doc love, I went on a date with a woman over<br />the weekend. During dinner she said I looked like a<br />player and that she's looking for a relationship with<br />someone who's more mature. So I tried very hard<br />to convince her that I wasn't a player. She wouldn't<br />believe me, and now she won't answer my calls. What<br />happened? How can I prove to her that I am really<br />not a player?"<br /><br /> Here's what I wrote back, "Congratulations.<br />She gave you a test, and guess what? YOU'VE FAILED<br />IT!"<br /><br /> Okay. Here's the truth. When a woman asks<br />you if you're a player, she's doing it as a test.<br />If you freak out and start trying to prove to her<br />what a good guy you are, you're going to fall right<br />into her trap and fail the test. To a woman, a man<br />who is good with women is not necessarily a bad man,<br />but a man who is interesting and fun to be around.<br />Guys who are popular with women walk around with<br />more social proof and romantic respect, which make<br />them even more challenging and interesting to <br />other women. So as a man, if you're seen as someone<br />who's good with women, why would you want to<br />give that power away?<br /><br /> Here's what you should do if a woman tests<br />you by accusing you of being a player: Just play<br />along and tell her it's not your fault that the<br />ladies won't leave you alone. You can even tell<br />her how much your life sucks because all the women<br />you meet only see you as a sex object, when<br />deep inside you really want a woman who will<br />cuddle and listen. (See how you're turning things <br />around?)<br /><br /> Be playful and use a woman's tests to<br />flirt with her, and she's going to fall for you -<br />HARD!Johannsenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18096626876486138671noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135524265801500251.post-86084477310980850992008-04-05T22:47:00.000-07:002008-04-05T22:48:31.840-07:00"How To Fix Your Boyfriend or Girlfriend"I'm often asked, "doc love, I am interested<br />in dating this girl but she's <insert flaw>. How<br />can I get her to change so that she will be the<br />perfect girlfriend?"<br /><br /><br /> Here's my answer: In most cases, if<br />you can't stand something about a person, you should<br />not get involved in a romantic relationship with<br />them. (I am not talking about tiny things. I am<br />talking about big issues.)<br /><br /><br /> As a dating coach, I have worked with many men <br />and women who had married a person with flaws because <br />they thought they could "fix" the person over time. <br />Some of these clients even took on fixing (though they <br />usually call it "supporting") the person as their <br />personal mission.<br /><br /><br /><br /> I feel sorry for these men and women!<br /><br /><br /> In my experience, you cannot make a person <br />change. Ultimately, it is up to the person to change <br />themselves. Any kind of external stimuli you put on <br />a person to make them change will lose its effect <br />over time. <br /><br /><br /> In other words, don't expect your mate to <br />change much from the way they are right now. What <br />you see is what you get. Because for most people, <br />it is almost impossible to break away from their <br />old habits - especially if the person is past 30.<br /><br /><br /> Of course, this does not mean that a person's <br />behavior can never change. Just don't EXPECT it to <br />change.<br /><br /><br /> If you really like the person, then take the <br />person for who he or she is. But don't try to change <br />the person even if you know it's good for them. You <br />can try, but you will probably fail!Johannsenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18096626876486138671noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135524265801500251.post-79468132620721209962008-04-05T22:39:00.000-07:002008-04-05T22:40:11.668-07:00"10 Things To Remember When You Approach A Woman"Here are 10 things to remember when you approach a woman:<br /><br /><br />1) Have a smile on your face. Not a nervous smile, but a <br />confident, charming smile. Have the smile even if the<br />woman is not looking at you. Having a genuine smile will <br />help give you more confidence as well as create a <br />good first impression.<br /><br /><br />2) Make eye contact if possible. It's not always possible,<br />but when possible, do it.<br /><br /><br />3) Open up your body language. Think high and wide. Imagine<br />a string holding your head up at the top of your head.<br /><br /><br />4) Walk over casually. A mistake I see all the time is that<br />guys often walk too fast when they approach women. They<br />wait 10 minutes to get the courage to approach, and when<br />they finally do, they walk there quickly. This actually<br />raises the internal alarm in a woman's mind. A casual<br />walk there is much better as it will make her feel more<br />at ease with you.<br /><br /><br />5) Be away of personal space. Make sure you don't get too<br />close and invade her personal space at the beginning.<br /><br /><br />6) Don't try to "act smooth." In my experience, a lot<br />of guys actually put on an "act" as a way to protect<br />their inner ego. This way when they get rejected, <br />they can feel like the woman has rejected their "act"<br />instead of their actual selves. I know it takes a lot <br />more courage to be genuine, but really, while putting <br />on an act may help protect your ego in the short run, <br />it will damage your success in the long run.<br /><br /><br />7) Try to match her energy level. Make sure your energy<br />level is not too low or too high relative to hers.<br />If a woman has high energy, approach with low energy<br />and you will seem boring. If a woman has low energy and<br />you have too much energy when you approach, you will<br />make her feel alarmed.<br /><br /><br />8) If you're approaching a woman who is with friends,<br />approach the whole group rather than her. If you <br />approach her alone, her friends will give you <br />resistance. <br /><br /><br />9) If you have no idea what to say, think about what<br />you would say if you were just chatting up a random<br />stranger and to get his or her attention. The point <br />of an opener is to start a conversation, and that's it.<br />Don't worry about creating attraction, etc. That comes<br />later.<br /><br /><br />10) Remember that you're just trying to make friends.<br />Let go of your expectations and have fun. That's the most<br />important thing to remember!Johannsenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18096626876486138671noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135524265801500251.post-17764086593956401012008-04-03T00:40:00.000-07:002008-04-03T00:43:07.335-07:00How To Create A Good First Impression With WomenFirst impressions are important. A lot of what<br />a woman thinks about you will be based on what she sees<br />within 60 seconds of meeting you. Here's how you can <br />create a good first impression when you meet a women.<br /><br /><br />1) Dress to impress. You don't need to wear expensive<br />clothes. But at least be clean and a bit stylish. If<br />you dress like a tool, you will be ignored like a tool.<br /><br /><br />2) Great everyone with a smile. Smiling relaxes people<br />and make them feel comfortable around you.<br /><br /><br />3) Look and feel positive. Positive energy draws people<br />towards you. Project a positive attitude at all times, <br />even in bad situations.<br /><br /><br />4) Have higher energy than whoever you're meeting.<br />This way, they will want to be part of your world<br />instead of wanting to get rid of you because you are<br />a loser.<br /><br /><br />5) Have a firm handshake. As a female friend of mine <br />likes to say, "I can tell if a guy is a loser or not<br />by his handshake."<br /><br /><br />6) Conform, without losing your individuality. If you<br />dress and act to different, you may be seen as an idiot.<br />But if you're too bland, you won't be memorable. So conform<br />to society's norms but have something unique about you.<br /><br /><br />7) Walk tall. Confidence and self-assurance goes a long<br />way. If you have closed body language, you're not going<br />to create a very good impression!<br /><br /><br />8) Make good eye contact. Don't look away until the other<br />person does. (But don't stare!)<br /><br /><br />9) Be naturally curious about the person you're meeting.<br /><br /><br />10) Lean slightly forward during conversation. This will show <br />that you are interested in what the other person is saying.<br /><br /><br />11) Have an objective for each encounter, such as "I want to<br />be memorable by making the person feel good."<br /><br /><br />12) Be attentive. Notice the details.<br /><br /><br />13) Talk slowly and clearly.<br /><br /><br />14) Have social proof before you approach. For example,<br />let the women see you having a great time with your<br />friends.<br /><br /><br />15) End the encounter while the energy is still high. This<br />will "lock in" the good impression of you.Johannsenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18096626876486138671noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135524265801500251.post-8820065655123281622008-03-28T06:37:00.000-07:002008-03-28T06:38:44.301-07:00should you mix approaching with flirting?A "noob" mistake that I see some of my readers<br />do all the time is that they try to combine approaching<br />women with flirting and teasing before they are ready<br />to do so. <br /><br /> When you're playing basketball, you learn to<br />dribble and you learn to shoot. Both are important <br />skills to have and do work together eventually, but <br />at the beginning, they need to be practiced separately<br />until you are ready to do them simultaneously.<br /><br /> Dating is no different. If you worry about<br />approaching women when you should be practicing<br />your flirting, it's going to kill your success. And<br />if you worry about how you should be flirting with<br />a woman before you approach her, it's going to lower<br />your confidence and make yourself stumble.<br /><br /> That's why you should practice approaching<br />women and flirting with them separately until they<br />both become second nature to you.<br /><br /> Start by flirt with every woman you come <br />across casually. Just let go of your expectations<br />and be playful. Forget about the results and just<br />do it. Flirt with all the females within your social<br />circle. (If you don't have one, it's time to get<br />one!)<br /><br /> Once you can do that, then start approaching<br />strangers (not just women, but men as well) and <br />small-talk them. Focus on meeting people and <br />developing your natural curiosity towards things and<br />people in general.<br /><br /> Finally, combine the two together and flirt<br />with the women you approach. Use some of the more<br />advanced flirting routines I've taught you such<br />as the "Name Tease Flirting Routine" I sent you<br />the other day.<br /><br /> I promise you'll have more success if you <br />break things down and practice before putting everything<br />back together again!Johannsenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18096626876486138671noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135524265801500251.post-7871605574588147942008-03-13T00:15:00.000-07:002008-03-13T00:33:34.524-07:00Top 10: Great Date Conversation Tips<hr />
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<br /><strong>Number 10</strong>
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<br /><em><strong>Avoid the “interview</strong>”</em>
<br />Most guys treat a first date like a job interview, asking the same old boring questions that a woman is sure to have heard 100 times. Avoid asking questions like: “How old are you?”; “What do you do?”; and “How many brothers and sisters do you have?” and you’ll separate yourself from every other guy she has met. Following this great date conversation tip surely will lead to more interesting topics.
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<br /><strong>Number 9 </strong>
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<br /><em>Lead the conversation</em></strong>
<br />If you sense that the conversation is going too far into the “boring zone” (you’re talking about work), don’t be afraid to take charge. Simply say, “Enough about that; let’s talk about something more interesting,” and you’ll be sure to instantly change a boring conversation -- and a boring date -- into an exciting time.
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<br /><strong>Number 8 </strong>
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<br /><strong><em>Make eye contact</em></strong>
<br />Not all of our great date conversation tips have to do with speaking or listening, as the intangibles of conversation are equally important. So, be sure to look into her sexy eyes when you talk to her. You should also hold eye contact just a little too long, as this will show her that you are a <a href="http://doubleyourdating.com/11714/index.asp?spid=TZZZVG" target="_blank">confident man</a> who knows what he wants.
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<br /><strong>Number 7</strong>
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<br /><strong><em>Bring up current gossip</em></strong>
<br />There’s a reason why every woman you know reads celebrity gossip magazines -- they just can’t get enough of the stuff! Don’t be afraid to ask her what she thinks about the latest fashion faux pas at the most recent awards show or what she thinks of the current celebrity-in-rehab news. When you discuss topics that are fun and interesting to her, she’ll automatically see you as fun and interesting.
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<br /><strong>Number 6
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<br /><em>She’s watching you</em></strong>
<br />Guess what, guys; when you’re talking to your waiter, the cab driver or the bartender, your date is listening to and judging you. Treat everyone you talk to with kindness and respect. <a href="http://doubleyourdating.com/11714/index.asp?spid=TZZZVG" target="_blank">She will notice</a>, and that’s why it’s on our list of great date conversation tips.</strong>
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<br /><strong>Number 5
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<br /><strong><em>Be playful</em></strong>
<br />Women love guys with whom they can have a good time, and a great way to spark some fun conversation is to ask left-field and playful questions that people don’t usually ask. So, next time you’re on a date, <a href="http://doubleyourdating.com/11714/index.asp?spid=TZZZVG" target="_blank">don’t be afraid</a> to ask her what her favorite color is, what kind of ice cream she likes and how many stuffed animals she has. If you rate her answers, you’ll turn this strategy into a fun game: Cookie dough? Yeah, I don’t think this is gonna work out.
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<br /><strong>Number 4</strong>
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<br /><strong><em>Avoid the “tough topics”</em></strong>
<br />Yes, I’m talking about politics and religion. You’re asking for trouble if you bring up either one of these. Save it!
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<br /><strong>Number 3</strong>
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<br /><strong><em>Don’t worry about uncomfortable silences</em></strong>
<br />A sign that you are comfortable with someone is when you can enjoy a good silence with them and not feel that you have to talk the entire time. Next time one of your conversations comes to a lull, relax and let her be the one to spark it up again. It will show her that <a href="http://doubleyourdating.com/11714/index.asp?spid=TZZZVG" target="_blank">you’re comfortable with yourself</a>, which will make her feel more comfortable with you.
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<br /><strong>Number 2</strong>
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<br /><strong><em>Don’t try to impress</em></strong>
<br />Women have seen enough to know that guys who try to impress them are just trying to make up for their own insecurities. In fact, women are so tired of this that they will actually “test” you to see if you are one of those guys right away. So, be humble. If there is something about you that she would find impressive (such as a car or a loft), make her dig to find out what it is or discover it naturally -- don’t just blurt it out. She’ll be more impressed by your modesty than anything else.
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<br /><strong>Number 1</strong>
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<br /><strong><em>Avoid the dreaded “fatal questions”</em></strong>
<br />Most guys don’t realize that asking a woman things like: “Am I your type?”; “How do you like me so far?”; and “Do you want to hang out again some time?” will instantly send her running for the hills. Why? Because it shows her that you aren’t <a href="http://doubleyourdating.com/11714/index.asp?spid=TZZZVG" target="_blank">the confident man that she wants</a>. Remember that a confident guy knows it doesn’t matter if he’s her “type.” He also knows that she definitely “likes him” and would love to hang out again. Think about it.
<br /><hr />Johannsenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18096626876486138671noreply@blogger.com0