should you mix approaching with flirting?

A "noob" mistake that I see some of my readers
do all the time is that they try to combine approaching
women with flirting and teasing before they are ready
to do so.

When you're playing basketball, you learn to
dribble and you learn to shoot. Both are important
skills to have and do work together eventually, but
at the beginning, they need to be practiced separately
until you are ready to do them simultaneously.

Dating is no different. If you worry about
approaching women when you should be practicing
your flirting, it's going to kill your success. And
if you worry about how you should be flirting with
a woman before you approach her, it's going to lower
your confidence and make yourself stumble.

That's why you should practice approaching
women and flirting with them separately until they
both become second nature to you.

Start by flirt with every woman you come
across casually. Just let go of your expectations
and be playful. Forget about the results and just
do it. Flirt with all the females within your social
circle. (If you don't have one, it's time to get
one!)

Once you can do that, then start approaching
strangers (not just women, but men as well) and
small-talk them. Focus on meeting people and
developing your natural curiosity towards things and
people in general.

Finally, combine the two together and flirt
with the women you approach. Use some of the more
advanced flirting routines I've taught you such
as the "Name Tease Flirting Routine" I sent you
the other day.

I promise you'll have more success if you
break things down and practice before putting everything
back together again!

Top 10: Great Date Conversation Tips

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Number 10

Avoid the “interview”
Most guys treat a first date like a job interview, asking the same old boring questions that a woman is sure to have heard 100 times. Avoid asking questions like: “How old are you?”; “What do you do?”; and “How many brothers and sisters do you have?” and you’ll separate yourself from every other guy she has met. Following this great date conversation tip surely will lead to more interesting topics.

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Number 9

Lead the conversation
If you sense that the conversation is going too far into the “boring zone” (you’re talking about work), don’t be afraid to take charge. Simply say, “Enough about that; let’s talk about something more interesting,” and you’ll be sure to instantly change a boring conversation -- and a boring date -- into an exciting time.

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Number 8

Make eye contact
Not all of our great date conversation tips have to do with speaking or listening, as the intangibles of conversation are equally important. So, be sure to look into her sexy eyes when you talk to her. You should also hold eye contact just a little too long, as this will show her that you are a confident man who knows what he wants.

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Number 7

Bring up current gossip
There’s a reason why every woman you know reads celebrity gossip magazines -- they just can’t get enough of the stuff! Don’t be afraid to ask her what she thinks about the latest fashion faux pas at the most recent awards show or what she thinks of the current celebrity-in-rehab news. When you discuss topics that are fun and interesting to her, she’ll automatically see you as fun and interesting.

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Number 6

She’s watching you
Guess what, guys; when you’re talking to your waiter, the cab driver or the bartender, your date is listening to and judging you. Treat everyone you talk to with kindness and respect. She will notice, and that’s why it’s on our list of great date conversation tips.

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Number 5

Be playful
Women love guys with whom they can have a good time, and a great way to spark some fun conversation is to ask left-field and playful questions that people don’t usually ask. So, next time you’re on a date, don’t be afraid to ask her what her favorite color is, what kind of ice cream she likes and how many stuffed animals she has. If you rate her answers, you’ll turn this strategy into a fun game: Cookie dough? Yeah, I don’t think this is gonna work out.

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Number 4

Avoid the “tough topics”
Yes, I’m talking about politics and religion. You’re asking for trouble if you bring up either one of these. Save it!

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Number 3

Don’t worry about uncomfortable silences
A sign that you are comfortable with someone is when you can enjoy a good silence with them and not feel that you have to talk the entire time. Next time one of your conversations comes to a lull, relax and let her be the one to spark it up again. It will show her that you’re comfortable with yourself, which will make her feel more comfortable with you.

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Number 2

Don’t try to impress
Women have seen enough to know that guys who try to impress them are just trying to make up for their own insecurities. In fact, women are so tired of this that they will actually “test” you to see if you are one of those guys right away. So, be humble. If there is something about you that she would find impressive (such as a car or a loft), make her dig to find out what it is or discover it naturally -- don’t just blurt it out. She’ll be more impressed by your modesty than anything else.

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Number 1

Avoid the dreaded “fatal questions”
Most guys don’t realize that asking a woman things like: “Am I your type?”; “How do you like me so far?”; and “Do you want to hang out again some time?” will instantly send her running for the hills. Why? Because it shows her that you aren’t the confident man that she wants. Remember that a confident guy knows it doesn’t matter if he’s her “type.” He also knows that she definitely “likes him” and would love to hang out again. Think about it.

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"Should You Get Your Ex Back?"

If you are thinking about getting your ex back,the first thing you should think about is why you guys broke up in the first place, as in if it was a characteror an attraction issue. If it's just an attraction orcommunication issue, then by all means try to raise the attraction and save your relationship.

But if you guys had broken up because of relationshipdrama, such as if you or your ex had too much emotionalbaggage to be involved with a romantic relationship, thenI'd recommend against getting back together. If it was you who had character problems, then fix yourself firstand then think about getting back together. If it was yourex who had character problems, then be glad that therelationship is over and don't even think about gettingback together.

This will require an objective review of yourex's and your own character. If you're still too emotional to have clear judgment, then here's a simple test: Thinkabout whether your close friends and family hate your ex do. If they do, chances are, there's something wrong withyour ex that you don't see.

You should also think about how compatible youactually are with your ex. If it's "just too hard" foryou guys to be together, maybe you both would be better offbeing with someone who'd create less drama.

A Simple Flirting Routine Based On Getting Caught

A while ago I told you in one of my articles that one of the way to flirt or to approach a woman is by letting her catch you checking her out. Today I will show you an example of how to do it:

1) Find a restaurant or retail store where the girls wear name tags.

2) Approach a woman.

3) Make eye contact and smile. When she smiles back, say "Hello..." and pause.

4) Break the eye contact and move your gaze down slowly...until you reach her chest...where her name tag is.

5) Make eye contact again and say her name...slowly.

6) Pause and then give her a compliment OR tease about her name.

Example: "That's a very interesting name. What's the story behind it?" (If it is an unique name.)

Example: "That sounds like something from the Transformers."

7) Wait for her reaction. And then start the small-talking and flirting.

If you perform this routine correctly, you're going to make her blush!

Developing Rapport through Voice tone matching

Here is an exercise I would like you to do to work on your voice tone matching skills.This is an important technique you can use tobuild rapport with women.

1) Choose an unimportant situation youdon't get about...with someone you don't careabout.

Pick a situation where you don't careabout the outcome at all, such as a casual conversation on the bus or a meeting with afriend of a friend.

2) Match their voice tone.

As you talk to the person, pay attentionto the tempo and voice tone of their voice. Tryto adjust your own tempo and voice tone until you are matching theirs. Now see if there is a feeling of rapportin the conversation.

3) Mismatch their voice tone.

Next, try to mismatch your tempo and voicetone on purpose. Notice how this impacts therapport.

4) Go back to matching

Finally, change back to matching the person'svoice tone. See if you regain the rapport.

With a little bit of practice, you will be able to build rapport by matching a person'svoice. You will get so used to it that itwill become second nature to you. That is when youcan used my advanced conversation techniques to "lead" a conversation with your voice tone!

Source: http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com/

How To Use Sappy Lines On Women

As I always say, with the correct voicetone and playful attitude, you can say almostanything to a woman and still make her laugh.This is why sometimes even "sappy" or cornylines that "nice guys" like to use on womencan actually work if you use them correctly. The key is to use an extra playful attitude, almost as if you're mocking the line or the people who use it. Thos technique can accomplish severalthings.

First of all, instead of thinking you're a wimp, the woman will know you're being playful and maybe play along. This willboast the playful energy and raise the chemistry.

Secondly, it will demonstrate yoursocial proof by showing your woman you know what a man is or is not supposed to say. Thiswill make you seem like an "insider" - someonewho is experienced and capable of making her feel great. This in turn will build a kind ofspecial rapport that makes you seem more interesting than other guys.

Lastly, there'll be a bit of flattery power behind the sappy lines.The "wuss" part of the line will have alreadybeen disarmed by your "mockful" tone, leavingjust the good stuff to make your woman very,very happy!

The 7 signs a woman wants to be approached

You probably are often in situations where you
don't know if a woman is receptive or not.

Perhaps it's in a bookstore, as you watch a
desirable woman browse the books. Or perhaps it's
at a coffee shop, wondering if a woman might like
you as you watch her working on her laptop
computer.

One of the big traps men fall into is they don't
find out if a woman is receptive or not. If she's
not, then fine, you can move on. But you have to
find out. How to do that?

1. Saying "hi" right away.

If you said "hi" to that woman at the coffee shop
when you first saw her, and she didn't say "hi"
back, you'd have a good idea that she's not very
receptive to your approaching her. If she did say
"hi" back, then you both have a little invested in
the relationship, and it will be easier to talk
with her more later.

2. Assessing her "vibe."

With some women, you really might get the sense
that there is a wall around them that they are
really in their own world.

In that situation, the average guy will make this
mistake -- he'll assume that if he was better with
women, he'd be able to break down that wall, talk
to that woman, and get her into bed in 20 minutes
or less.

Then the average guy will feel bad about himself.
Has that ever happened to you?

The truth is, some women are highly unreceptive,
and it doesn't have anything to do with you, and
there's nothing you are going to be able to do
about it. Stop idealizing her as "the perfect
woman, who got away" and stop beating yourself up
about it.

3. Check out her level of eye contact.

If you are around anyone, you are likely to make
accidental eye contact--unless that person is
making an effort to make sure that eye contact
does not occur. If you can't catch her eye, it
doesn't mean that the game is over, but it might
mean that she's less open to you than you might
like.

4. Being a source of certainty that the
interaction is going okay.

Remember, most of the time, a woman is looking to
you to gauge whether or not she should be tense in
an interaction. If you seem relaxed, she'll be
much more likely to relax, too.

On the other hand, if you are tense, she'll be
tense, too.

Don't wait for her to relax first--have the faith
that the interaction is okay, even before there's
any proof of it.

Providing that certainty is _much_ more important
than having the "perfect line." You can bumble all
over the place, but if you are a source of
certainty, then you will have a much better chance
with her.

5. See how she responds to comments.

You can find out if a woman is receptive by making
some little comment, and seeing how she responds
to it.

For instance -- If you are using your laptop
computer outside at a coffee shop, and it is too
bright to see the screen so you came back inside,
you might say something like, "Wow, it's nice out,
but too bright to see the screen" as you pass by
her.

See how she responds -- if she grunts or says
nothing, she's probably feeling unapproachable. If
she gives you an entire sentence, you are on your
way!

6. Try a simple conversation-starter.

Get this -- It IS permissible to start a
conversation with a very tepid, non-romantic
question.

You don't have to be romantic right off the bat --
just try a little test to find out if she's
interested in talking with you.

Look for something in the environment you can
comment on, or something about her person that you
can ask a question about. Then make your comment
or ask your question.

It's perfectly find to start a conversation with,
"Excuse me, I notice you have an Apple laptop. How
do you like it?" You just need to get something
started. It can get romantic later.

It's also excellent to ask, "What's the story
behind that?" about some article on her person.
For instance, you might say, "Excuse me, I
couldn't help noticing your unusual necklace. I
can't recall ever seeing one like that before. If
you wouldn't mind me asking, what's the story
behind that?"

These are good ways to open conversations with any
woman, and will help you see how receptive she is.

7. Don't beat yourself up for "missed"
opportunities.

We've said it before, and we'll say it again: It
does you no good to beat yourself up for not
talking to every woman who crosses your path.

Sometimes you'll "miss" opportunities with women.
Don't beat yourself up about it. Beating yourself
up about missing opportunities with women only
makes things worse.

We believe that this is true: "Missing"
opportunities -- and not beating yourself up about
them -- is part of learning to actually take
opportunities.

The sequence looks like this: 1) You believe there
are no opportunities. Eventually, that leads to 2)
You see opportunities, but don't take them, which
leads to 3) seeing opportunities and taking them.
Let yourself feel good about even _seeing_ the
opportunity to approach a woman. That will help
you take the opportunity in the future.

More women than you think want you to approach
them. Use these tips to find out which ones, and
take action!