The 7 signs a woman wants to be approached

You probably are often in situations where you
don't know if a woman is receptive or not.

Perhaps it's in a bookstore, as you watch a
desirable woman browse the books. Or perhaps it's
at a coffee shop, wondering if a woman might like
you as you watch her working on her laptop
computer.

One of the big traps men fall into is they don't
find out if a woman is receptive or not. If she's
not, then fine, you can move on. But you have to
find out. How to do that?

1. Saying "hi" right away.

If you said "hi" to that woman at the coffee shop
when you first saw her, and she didn't say "hi"
back, you'd have a good idea that she's not very
receptive to your approaching her. If she did say
"hi" back, then you both have a little invested in
the relationship, and it will be easier to talk
with her more later.

2. Assessing her "vibe."

With some women, you really might get the sense
that there is a wall around them that they are
really in their own world.

In that situation, the average guy will make this
mistake -- he'll assume that if he was better with
women, he'd be able to break down that wall, talk
to that woman, and get her into bed in 20 minutes
or less.

Then the average guy will feel bad about himself.
Has that ever happened to you?

The truth is, some women are highly unreceptive,
and it doesn't have anything to do with you, and
there's nothing you are going to be able to do
about it. Stop idealizing her as "the perfect
woman, who got away" and stop beating yourself up
about it.

3. Check out her level of eye contact.

If you are around anyone, you are likely to make
accidental eye contact--unless that person is
making an effort to make sure that eye contact
does not occur. If you can't catch her eye, it
doesn't mean that the game is over, but it might
mean that she's less open to you than you might
like.

4. Being a source of certainty that the
interaction is going okay.

Remember, most of the time, a woman is looking to
you to gauge whether or not she should be tense in
an interaction. If you seem relaxed, she'll be
much more likely to relax, too.

On the other hand, if you are tense, she'll be
tense, too.

Don't wait for her to relax first--have the faith
that the interaction is okay, even before there's
any proof of it.

Providing that certainty is _much_ more important
than having the "perfect line." You can bumble all
over the place, but if you are a source of
certainty, then you will have a much better chance
with her.

5. See how she responds to comments.

You can find out if a woman is receptive by making
some little comment, and seeing how she responds
to it.

For instance -- If you are using your laptop
computer outside at a coffee shop, and it is too
bright to see the screen so you came back inside,
you might say something like, "Wow, it's nice out,
but too bright to see the screen" as you pass by
her.

See how she responds -- if she grunts or says
nothing, she's probably feeling unapproachable. If
she gives you an entire sentence, you are on your
way!

6. Try a simple conversation-starter.

Get this -- It IS permissible to start a
conversation with a very tepid, non-romantic
question.

You don't have to be romantic right off the bat --
just try a little test to find out if she's
interested in talking with you.

Look for something in the environment you can
comment on, or something about her person that you
can ask a question about. Then make your comment
or ask your question.

It's perfectly find to start a conversation with,
"Excuse me, I notice you have an Apple laptop. How
do you like it?" You just need to get something
started. It can get romantic later.

It's also excellent to ask, "What's the story
behind that?" about some article on her person.
For instance, you might say, "Excuse me, I
couldn't help noticing your unusual necklace. I
can't recall ever seeing one like that before. If
you wouldn't mind me asking, what's the story
behind that?"

These are good ways to open conversations with any
woman, and will help you see how receptive she is.

7. Don't beat yourself up for "missed"
opportunities.

We've said it before, and we'll say it again: It
does you no good to beat yourself up for not
talking to every woman who crosses your path.

Sometimes you'll "miss" opportunities with women.
Don't beat yourself up about it. Beating yourself
up about missing opportunities with women only
makes things worse.

We believe that this is true: "Missing"
opportunities -- and not beating yourself up about
them -- is part of learning to actually take
opportunities.

The sequence looks like this: 1) You believe there
are no opportunities. Eventually, that leads to 2)
You see opportunities, but don't take them, which
leads to 3) seeing opportunities and taking them.
Let yourself feel good about even _seeing_ the
opportunity to approach a woman. That will help
you take the opportunity in the future.

More women than you think want you to approach
them. Use these tips to find out which ones, and
take action!