"How To Use Temptation To Get A Date"

Here is a little routine you can
use to get a date.

1) Think of event or place that is ultra
cool.

Examples:


- Upcoming party

- Upcoming concert

- Favorite "unknown" restaurant

- Some kind of an upcoming art event
or exhibition
(Especially if you are an expert on it)


The only rule is that Whatever you
pick should be quite unique and not something
"everybody" is talking about.


2) Casually mention it to the woman during
a conversation. Talk about how great it's going
to be, and then just switch to other topics.


3) Let her wonder why you are not inviting
her.


4) Use other techniques to continue building
rapport and displaying your great personality.


5) Just before you're about to leave, bring it up
again and invite her casually. Make it a "By
the way, you should come to..." kind of
thing.


If you do this routine properly, the
woman will be more likely to say "yes" to
a casual first date. After all, it is much
more interesting than checking out the best
Indian restaurant in town or going to the
see a cool band than to "get coffee" or
"get together for lunch"!

"How To Lift Yourself Out of Dating Blues"

One of the most common questions
I get is how a person can get out of their
"dating blues" when they are down. This
may include moving on after a bad breakup
or getting out of depression after being
rejected.


This is my honest answer:

Do something that will have long
term benefits.


From my experience, depressed people
need to feel alive. It is quite useless to
tell them to be happy or just to do things
they like. When you are depressed and drained
emotionally, it is hard to get pleasure out
of anything - even in activities you would
normally enjoy.


However, doing things that can
give you long term benefits will make you
feel like you are in control of yourself,
and it is a great feeling to feel like
you're taking responsibility for yourself!


Set objectives and goals that have
long-term benefits, be it working out,
taking a class, or simply cleaning. By
focusing on the future instead of immediate
gratification, not only will you feel more
in control and have more confidence, you
will also see that you have a future to
look forward to!

"What If Women Like To Spread Gossips About You"

Once in awhile, I'll get an email that
goes, "Johannsen. There's this woman who is
going around spreading rumors about me.
People are starting to believe her and it's
hurting my success. Girls don't like me anymore
because of her gossips. What should I do?"


Okay. I'm going to have to be a bit
blunt here. 9 out of 10 times, unless you've
done something drastically wrong, if people
are treating you badly because of gossips
from one person, you should really take
a good look at yourself and see why you are
so unpopular.


Let me give you two scenarios...

Scenario #1:

A woman who is quite popular spreads
some false rumors about a man who is not so
popular in a small community. Who will the
crowd side with?

Scenario #2:

A woman who is not popular at all
spreads false rumors about a guy everybody
loves. Who will the crowd sides with?


Here's the hard truth. If everybody
is joining in to ignore you or to humiliate
you, chances are, you weren't that popular to
begin with. If people liked you, they would
have defended you. Sounds harsh? It's
reality.

So the first step to stopping and
preventing false rumors is to be more
likable.

Think about why people dislike
you, and think about how to make more friends.


Once you have the "majority support",
then you can become to isolate the gossip
spreader as a loser who can't be trusted.


By then, you can also confront the
gossip spreader directly. Go up to the
person and say something like. "Hey.
I just thought I should tell you that
there's a gossip spreading around you
in the office. But don't worry, I won't
pass it in."


Then when she asks you what it is,
say, "Oh. I overheard it from someone -
I can't tell you who - that everybody
thinks you are the biggest gossiper in
the office and can't be trusted."


Bulls eye!

"How To Change A Woman (Or Man)"

As I always say, you can't really
change a person unless they WANT to change.
In many cases, the character of the person
will remain the same. But if you're talking
about small changes, then there's a chance
that you can help promote change with the
following technique.

The key is to separate the behavior
from the identity of the person. This way,
the person will feel that it's not really
their fault.


Here's how to do it:

1) Start by complimenting the person. Tell
them what they want to hear.

Example:

"Jennifer, you are a wonderful,
wonderful woman and I like you a lot. You're
kind, generous, and adventurous. It's very
fun to be around you."


2) Bridge it to the behavior you want to
stop, but do it in such a way that you're
suggesting their real identity is opposite
of the behavior you are trying to stop.

Example:


"I can also tell that you're a very
loyal person by the way you treat me, your
friends and family."


3) Then separate the behavior from the identity.

Example:

"But sometimes when I see you talk
to other guys, I get uncomfortable. I know
you're not trying to flirt with them because
that's not the kind of girl you are. You're
not like other girls and that's why I fell
for you."


Here's the bottom line. If you tell
someone they are horrible because they did
something stupid, then you're attacking their
core identity and forcing them to act defensive.
But if you tell them you think they are too smart
to do something stupid, then they probably
won't do it just so they can keep the good image!

Go Out To Have Fun, Not To Pick Up Chicks

Here is an important rule to remember when
you go out to pick up woman:

Go out not because you want to get girls,
but because you want to have fun with your buddies.

I'll give you an example:

2 guys go to the beach. The first guy is
there to pick up chicks. He gawks at the girls
and approaches everyone. The second guy is there
with his buddies and they are just there to have
a great time. A few girls walk by as they are playing
volleyball and he makes a casual comment about a
hat one of the girls is wearing. He invites her
to serve for his team for good luck. A few minutes
later they start talking naturally.

Which guy will look cool, and which
guy will look like a complete tool?

Here's what it all boils down to:
If you look like you're there to have fun with
your friends, you will look less desperate and
your approaches will look more natural and
spontaneous. On top of that, you will also have
more social proof because chances are, the girls
will have seen you having fun with your buddies.
And when you look like you're having a great time,
then it will be natural for other people to want
to join in the fun and become part of it
as well.

So what are you waiting for? Go hang
out with your friends!

"20 First Date Dating Tips"

1) Flirt a lot. Be playful.

2) Tease her a lot and act like a challenge.

3) Stay in control and lead the date.

3) Avoid talking about politics, religion, and controversial
topics.

4) Give her your full attention. Don't check out other women.

5) Make good eye contact.

6) Have strong body language.

7) Don't talk about your past relationships, and change topics
when she talks about her past relationships.

8) Act positive and optimistic.

9) Don't make offensive jokes.

10) Don't act needy or kiss her ass.

11) Compliment her a little, but not too much. Remain a
challenge.

12) Be on time.

13) Play it cool.

14) Don't get drunk. Seriously.

15) Dress well and groom yourself before you see her.

16) Give her a big hug as soon as you meet her. Why? A little
physical touching right off the bat can be a good start!

17) Keep advancing in a subtle manner. Holding her hand? See
if you can get a kiss next, and so on.

18) Build rapport and have a stimulating conversation.

19) Act like a gentelman. Open doors and pull out chairs naturally.

20) Relax and have fun!

"How To Recover From A Breakup"

Here are some tips on how to recover from a breakup.


1) Cut All Contact
No matter you're moving on or trying to get your ex back ( see www.reverseyourbreakup.com ), it is very important that you CUT ALL CONTACT with your ex. This will help rebuild your confidence so thatyou can move on.

2) Workout
Working out at the gym will help you get your ex off your mind. The endorphins released during your workouts will make you a happier person. The body you get from working out will also make you a more confident person.

3) See Your Friends
Remember all the friends that you've ditched just to hang out with your ex? Start hanging out with them again! Go hang out with them and let them lift you up!

4) Meet New Friends
You should also meet as many NEW friends as possible while you're single again. Being sociable is one of the best ways to meet members of the opposite sex. Even if you don't want to start dating againyet, meeting new people will help you get your mind offyour ex.

5) Spend Time With Family
Spending time with family is a good way to "recharge" your energy while you're single.

6) Find New hobbies
Spend some time on a new hobby or two while you're single. Besides taking your mind off your ex, developing your passion for different hobbies or subjects will definitely make you a more interesting and well-rounded person. Plus, chances are you will be able to meet men or women who enjoy the same hobbies as you do.

7) Education and Self-Improvement
Take a few college classes and buy a few self-improvement programs. You can NEVER spend too much time or money on your self-education.

8) Go After Your Dreams
Ambition is the most powerful aphrodisiac. Setting a long term goal will definitely help lift you out of your blues.

9) See Other People
See other people casually. This will help you build up your confidence again. You don't have to get into another long-term relationship right away...but at least start seeing other people!

10) Improve Your Dating Skills
Lastly, you should improve your dating skills while you are single. You want to make sure you don't repeat whatever mistakes you made last time with your ex. Remember: If you keep on doing the same things, you're going to keep getting the same results. I have seen too many "stubborn" people bump into the SAME walls OVER AND OVER with every person they date.